Everyone's a little weird.

But can you hide your weirdness until I know you? I mean, yeah some people like to flaunt it and be like this is me. And if you are that person, I'm sure it's like a quirky, awkward weird and not like silence of the lambs I want to run for the hills weird. And to be quite honest with you, if you are bat shit crazy weird, I probably do want to know early on just to weed you out and not waste my time. But can we hide it a little better? I mean, if I can tell you are weird within the first couple of hours of  knowing you, you are not hiding it that well.

I get a decent amount of guys looking at my online profile and messaging me. But I probably only want to respond to 1 in 20 of them. Why? They don't seem to have any personality that comes through their profiles. The stereotype is that girls like to talk right? That they can talk a guy's ear off. So why do most of the guys that message me only respond with "Hi." It's not even a "hi, how are you?" "Hi, how is your day going?" Nope. Just hi. My profile specifically even says "if you start a conversation with only hi, I will not respond." Second of all, please pretend like you want to get to know me before you start off with DTF or wanna hook up? Seriously, I'm sure there are some girls that just are down for that, but wouldn't they just advertise that right off the bat? If I wanted that, don't worry, I'll let you know. Third of all, please try to have skimmed my profile and see if we'd really get along. I don't want to waste your time, and I don't want to waste my time. I know they say to play the numbers game, but just because they are physically attractive, doesn't mean you will get a long. Fourth of all, as you are skimming, If I am not using words like "u" instead of "you" or "ur" instead of "your" then I probably don't like that type of typing.

It's not that difficult to start an online relationship with someone just have a social consciousness of what message you are trying to convey and follow the other person's kind of grammatical style or general interests.

And my top 5 most weird "I just met you online but here is how I am weird" conversations are:

5) A guy, within about a day of emailing back and forth said to me "I like receiving anal. What do you think about that?" That's a weird thing to announce right off the bat, right? If that's your thing, that's cool. But I mean, if we were on the subject that's one thing but since we weren't....I kind of judge you as being weird.

4) A message I received said "You are so beautiful. I will be your slave. You can tell me to do anything for you. I will just follow you around." - Does anyone else seem creeped out by this?

3) This pertains to a previous post of the guy that said he wanted a girl with a huge ass and then proceeded to send me a profile picture of his ass asking if mine was bigger than his cartoonishly big ass. Also, within our first texting conversation.

2) A guy announced in his profile that there were legitimate circumstances for a girl to be raped.

Nope. Shut it down.

1) A guy messaged me and told me to check out his profile to see if I was interested. I went to check it out. Under "Things I like" was the following:
Guns
Violence
Rope
Blood

Does he get a little of game with that profile? Cause if so, who are the fucking weird-o girls that are saying "yes, that is ok. I want me a piece of that?!?!

I'd like to think that it's a generational thing but it is not. I have seen the gamete of 21 year olds to 50 year olds message me and only 1 in 20 seem worth responding to. Just....if it's super creepy weird then announce it to save us time. If it's quirky and endearing then I'm open to explore that type of weirdness.

Online Dating

I have online dating stories for days. And I shouldn't even call it online dating, but online interactions that don't go much further than that because they are weird.

I have a couple online dating profiles and look at them when I'm bored. I don't actively engage conversation with members of the opposite sex and haven't updated my profile in at least over a year. I do get messages from a guy here or there and most of the time either A) the only thing they say to me is "hi" (which is not a great conversation starter) or B) they have said something else other than "hi" but they have chosen to display a bathroom selfie of themselves as the picture they would like to be judged by. If they have passed the initial stage of saying something more than one word to me and have a decent picture and even may look cute, I will then proceed into their profile. Usually I find something that is a deal breaker: sexual encounter, smoker, kids, etc. At that moment, I will close up the dating online profile and call it a day.

The other day, a guy by the name of Jose messaged me with "and here i am that somebody.....hey cool girl i hope my pictures do me justice in portraying my coolness i ooze and secrete coolness from every pore LOL hey if you're cool enough then maybe just maybe ill let YOU take ME out on a date LOL (that was a joke in case u missed it or sensitive to sarcasm part of my persona) so if u like what u read and see then u know what to do!!"


Yes, the grammar drove me crazy and there is no punctuation anywhere in this message other than the end, AND he wrote u instead of you, but it was a real message and silly enough to get my attention. The picture on his profile was not a selfie and did not appear to be in the bathroom. Yes, he's on a role. I then looked inside the profile and as sarcastic and ridiculous as it was, it made me laugh and looked innocent enough. So I messaged him back. That was probably the first message I responded to in a long time. He then messaged me again asking me to text him because he didn't like checking the site that often. Ok, I can understand that. 
The proceeding explains why I don't like rushing into a texting, phone relationship when it is clear there is not any foundation to the relationship. I just needed the reminder.

Me-Hi Jose....it's me Elizabeth, the sarcastic and witty girl you messaged. How are you?


Jose-Here at your disposal. Just go easy on me.
Me-Psh, you go easy on me...and before I forget your hair looks better shorter.
Jose-Send me a pic for my contacts please. (And I send him a very, but dorkable photo for his contacts. He then sends me 4.)
Jose-So what are u doing right now and what brings u to the site
Me-Right now I'm just laying down trying to cool down. And I work a lot and don't really go out so it's hard to meet people. Yourself?
Jose-As for me looking to date and just playing it by ear and see what bestows from it. Been single for 5 months now. 
Me-Ah. I gotcha. I've been single for a lot longer than that but also just want to play it by ear
Jose-So what race was ur ex and what caused the banana split? (Why is his race relevant at all to this conversation?)
Me-My ex was white and he went back to his ex. Why did you two split. 
Jose-Went back to his ex?? I guess you weren't performing your duties ;)
Me-It was also long distance so hard to perform anything
Jose-Where did u meet him?
Me-Online...it was a while ago. (also an tale as old as time tale but another day) But we don't have to talk about him...cause that's weird. We have plenty of other things to talk about.
Fast forward a few texts.
Me-What type of girls are you into?
Jose-well for me I love short thick girls and I have a thing for big butts. Lol. No pressure. Has to be funny loyal honest and sincere. Affectionate great kisser and cuddler. Lovable caring and just overall fun to be around with.....well......do you qualify my dear?
Me-I know I'm a great cuddler. I got that locked. The rest, I would say yes. And maybe too honest at times but overall I'd say I'm more genuine but in general yes.
Jose-Even the big butt part??
Me-Yes. Per many telling me. Not like corporate big ass but like tasteful big ass
Jose-Well lets just hope your butt is bigger than my cottage cheese butt ;)
Me-Haha yeah it would be embarrassing if we could wear the same size pants. 

Jose then sends me the following picture:



with the caption: "I don't think you're ready for this jelly ;)"






Jose-What do you think? 

Me-Uh, I'm going to go to bed. Night. 
I. Don't. Get. It. 

Dear single, normal, good sense of humor male....please save me soon.